Greta’s Sensuous Talks™ are designed to promote and encourage a healthy and wholesome conversation in the areas of Spirituality, Sexuality, Self-Development and Expression, Love Creation and Equity in Marriage.
I am a Married Business Owner who loves creating Fun, Passion and Romance. I have been married over (26) years to my delightful and wonderful husband, lover and helpmate, Rev. Dr. Gary A. Williams. I am a High Achiever who believes in nurturing and developing EXCELLENCE. Over the last (11) years, I have fully immersed myself in studying, practicing and understanding the spiritual-sexual connection between a husband and wife. Transforming my thinking on sex, God, marriage, women, and men has empowered me to create a marriage that is fun, exciting and spiritually evolving! I am a self-taught Tantra Sex Educator who desires to help the High Achieving Engaged and Married woman reach her full full potential in all areas of her life. Greta’s Sensuous Talks™ are fun, engaging, thought provoking and are intended to help you step outside of your comfort zone and transform your marriage with your husband into one that is passionate, romantic, fun, intimate and spiritually connected. I am the former President/CEO of The Diverse Placement Group, L.L.C.
Tantra Talk with Pala Copeland and Al Link - Part 1
Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!!
Please join Gary and me as we have a candid discussion on Tantra Sacred Sex with Pala Copeland and Al Link, our Tantra Coaches and Gurus on how Tantra Sacred Sex has influenced our marriage, each other and our lives.
We hope that you find this information insightful as well as inspiring.
May God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!!!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All rights Reserved.
I hope this blog finds you and your lover in perfect peace and that you are being Sensuous together.
As we continue to move forward in faith and ONEness, “Sex in the Morning Show with Gary A. and Greta™ has gotten over 1,200 views. Thank you so much, we appreciate those that took time out of their busy schedule to re-learn ways about Love. We are also grateful for our four(4) new subscribers.
We hope that those that have viewed the segments on Kissing, Eye Gazing, Hugging and now Sensuous Dating are implementing the practices into their daily connection. We know for certain that applying these love techniques on a consistent basis that your marriage and love will grow exponentially.
These love techniques simply help you get the affection that you crave and the connection that you desire as a husband and wife. Their intent is to help you break down barriers and get closer together as you openly display feelings of love. We are talking about dating or going out together.
It’s interesting how we do less of this after we get married. Putting time aside and making each other a priority at least once a week helped to save my marriage. We were two (2) busy bees going in different directions and making everyone else life and situation more important than the one that we were co-creating. Years of putting other’s people needs before each other can have devastating effects on a marriage and the love between a husband and wife.
Not spending enough time together are constant complaints that Gary and I hear on a consistent basis from husbands and wives. Although our advice is simple, the practice of spending twenty (20) hours a week together is often met with rejection. Most people express the belief that they do not have time for each other and that other things such as their jobs, children or other commitments are more important. That’s cool, we respect that perspective for we believe that it is your marriage and you are responsible for the success of it.
However, to move to the next level in love and co-create success, we have found that a husband and wife that deliberately put them-selves in each others calendar have the energy to handle the challenges in marriage with ease. Play makes a marriage interesting and fun. It gives the husband and wife something to talk about other than the children, work, bills and other people lives. It builds intimacy, laughter and a feeling of joy and connectedness. How else can you learn to grow in love unless you spend time together?
This week, we want to challenge you to work up to spending twenty (20) hours together. If this goal is overwhelming, start in small steps. Grow at your own pace. After all it is your marriage and you have to determine how much time you want to give to each other. Once the decision is made to spend time together, you will have to stick with it. Do not let anything come between your “We” time. This is what helps to keep your marriage a priority.
In addition to our segment on Sensuous Dating that I am now just posting on my blog is an interview with Pala Copeland and Al Link, our Tantra Coach and Experts in Tantra Sacred Sex. You can also view it on our channel at www.Youtube.com/SensuousSeminars1.
We are very excited to be able to share this conversation with you on how this practice has influenced our marriage and love for each other. We hope that you enjoy the dialogue.
Thank you again for your prayers and encouragement as we seek to become ONE. May God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life your dreams!!!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved
As I sit here and attempt to write this blog on hugging, I must admit that this has been one of the most difficult. As I examine this need for affection and the importance that it has to the love that is shared between a husband and wife, I feel a sense of pain and joy. Pain… because I remember how the lack of affection made me feel alienated from him and unloved. Joy….because I now experience the benefits of this affection from Gary and the blessings this has brought to our love and marriage. It has definitely been “fun” in progress!
The “Affection Series” that we have been presenting to you in Word and Deed through Sex in the Morning Show with Gary A. and Greta™ are heartfelt love creation strategies that we hope you will implement in your marriage with each other. For affection to work effectively in marriage, there has to be an agreed upon way to express this intention. Communicating and sharing how you want to be loved and feel loved, build and create intimacy in this area. Just like everything in marriage, the time for affection to grow and develop has to be given priority.
Affection is the ability to show your lover how much you love, respect, appreciate and desire them through expressions such as of kissing, eye gazing, hugging and hand holding, conversation, dinner, notes etc. and is usually non-sexual. It is the foreplay that the husband and wife engaged in while they were dating and were goo-goo eyes over each other.
In most cases, a wife need to feel as if she is ONE with her husband before she can have sex with him and the expression of affection and undivided attention from her husband help to make this physical and spiritual connection meaningful. According to Dr. Willard Harvey, author of HIS NEEDS/HER NEEDS, affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval for most women.
When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: I’ll take care of you and protect you. You are important to me and I don’t want anything to happen to you. I’m concerned about the problems you face and I am with you. I think you’ve done a good job and I’m so proud of you.
When a husband hugs his wife, he is communicating all of these things. It lets her know that she is special to him and that he cares for her deeply. It helps to create an environment of Love, Trust, Kindness and Compassion between them.
In my own marriage, Gary and I found that hugs help to break down the barriers that we had between us and create a feeling of closeness. Hugs has gotten us through some challenging situations. It is a display of affection that we do continuously throughout the day and share in equally. I have found that if I wanted to feel the intimacy of this connection then I made sure that I got the intimacy…in other words, I did not wait for Gary to hug me….I hugged him!!! Taking the lead has helped me to take control of the love that I wanted and desired.
This week as you go about the daily duties of being a husband and wife, I want to encourage you to HUG each other before you leave the house in the morning. Send each other out into the world feeling loved, rejuvenated, comforted and protected.
In the meantime check out our Affection Series on “Hugging” on www.Youtube.com/SensuousSeminars1 and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved
Well we are off to a good start….Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™ is hot!!!!
Thank you for your comments, we definitely appreciate them. Not only are people saying that Gary should put a shirt on or Greta should comb her hair…they've also expressed how much they like the concept and the information that we are attempting to convey. What is most important is that lovers are talking about kissing and have started to connect in this way again.
Also if we are going to teach “Authenticity,” we must practice “Authenticity” and no....we are not perfect. We are working on being “Authentic” just like the rest of you who have made the decision to be real and true to yourself. Anyway, now that you know how we look in the morning and like to start our day, we can get down to some serious business. The 2nd episode is on Eye Gazing.
In marriage, the eyes are probably the most neglected part of the love connection. Although Gary and I looked into each others eyes for hours while we were dating, this connection faded as we added the responsibility of kids, work, school and our extracurricular activities. We were busy people who had time for everyone and everything else but each other.
Looking into each other’s eyes on a daily basis helps to keep the attraction going between a husband and wife. It keeps the sparks flying and helps you get on ONE accord. I must admit that this exercise can be intimidating if you have not looked in each other’s eyes for in a long time.
When we started implementing Eye Gazing as part of our daily lovemaking routine ten(10) years ago, I remember feeling vulnerable, uncomfortable, anxious, embarrassed, giggly and thinking that this exercise was stupid…however, I also felt a sense of connection with Gary that I had not felt in years and it is that feeling that I began to nurture and cultivate. I love looking into Gary’s eyes. To me, they are beautiful.
Before you can become ONE, you have to start looking at each other and “seeing” each other, otherwise you will come to feel unappreciated and taken for granted. It is easy to feel unloved and undesired by each other when you are not connecting. Eye Gazing helps you to “see” each other and break down those emotional barriers that keep you apart. It is primarily used for husbands and wives who “want” to take their marriage to the next level of intimacy.
Please take a look at the video on Eye Gazing. Use the information to apply this Love Creation Strategy in your marriage. Take the time to “see” and adore each other for 2-3 minutes. Silence is encouraged. Resist the urge to turn your eyes away. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable to and with each other.
If done consistently, Eye Gazing will help you get in tune and co-create love in each other’s heart, mind, body and spirit. Remember love has to be created, it does not just happen. It is a step by step process. No marriage can sustain love without any effort and practice.
Be blessed this week as you seek to co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!!!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved
Thank you so much for your encouragement and feedback on last week Greta’s Sensuous Talk™ We continue to solicit your prayers and support as Gary and I move forward in our quest to help marriages become better. It is our desire to deliver information that is authentic to us and reflects “our” spirit as a husband and wife. Therefore, “Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™" seeks to be real, engaging, funny and educational.
As reflected in my talk, Kissing is a regular part of our marriage and the way that we express love for each other. It is an agreement that we both had to reach in order for this love creation strategy to be effective. We made a pact that this is how we would start our day. It was an element of love and affection that was missing between us. Although we kissed passionately during dating, the intensity and frequency decreased as we gave other areas of our lives more attention and found ourselves "pecking" as we sent each other out into the world.
Kissing is a practice that has to be nurtured and cultivated. It has to be done with intention and purpose. It has to add meaning to your lives and be a connection that you both cherish. To kiss just because you think it is something that you are supposed to do as a husband and wife will not feel good. It will feel obligatory and the connection that you desire will not be made.
Kissing is not a prelude to sex and should not be done with groping. I know from my experience that when groping was involved, my female brain immediately associated this touch with sex and I intuitively withdrew from this form of affection. I found it difficult to give myself permission to enjoy this connection with Gary without this thought popping into my head.
In retrospect, this kind of “stinking thinking” created a barrier to me experiencing intimacy and love. As a wife, I had to learn that this was one of the ways Gary expressed his love for me and that to receive the benefits of kissing, I had to be receptive.
To be effective in developing love and creating an environment where your lover can feel safe, it is essential that “Kissing” and how you want to kiss be discussed. By having this discussion, you will learn what feels good to each other and find ways to develop closeness.
Talking about how you want to be touched and how you want this connection to look is very important. It helps you to set boundaries and create respect for each other’s body temple. It also gives you the opportunity to look for ways in which you will both feel comfortable expressing your affection and co-creating love.
Finally, it is our belief that kissing is a spiritual connection and one that affects the heart, mind, body and soul. The exchange of breath and life with your lover is sacred and therefore the lips are to use for blessing.
Therefore, it is important that when you kiss that you do not enter into this connection with anger, resentment, jealousy, envy, fear, etc. Kissing in this manner will leave a nasty taste in your mouth and a spirit of discourse and discontent. It is difficult to be affectionate and build intimacy with each other if your love is contaminated by this kind of toxic energy.
This week as you continue to seek to implement Kissing in your daily lovemaking ritual…pay attention to your thoughts on kissing. Notice the feelings that you have when you think of this connection with each other and write them down. Make a point to set aside time with your lover to discuss how kissing affects you. Be gentle with each other as you share ways to improve.
Also, be mindful that not everyone is comfortable with this kind of affection, so if your lover is having difficulty connecting in this manner, be patient with them. Kissing is a learned behavior and should be fun…the more you do it, the more you will like it.
Take care of yourselves and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved
As usual, I pray that this blog finds you at peace with yourself and your loved ones. It has been awhile since I last “took” the time to sit down and write. However, sometimes you have to take time out for yourself and attempt to bring your life back into focus and decide for yourself what is important so that you can take the next step forward.
Since my last writing, Gary and I have celebrated several milestones, my 48th birthday, his 50th birthday and our 25th Wedding Anniversary. To be honest, it feels strange to see my life moving so fast. Yet, I will continue to embrace all that life bring and live it to the fullest as I seek to live in the moment of NOW.
I feel excited and rejuvenated as Gary and I continue to move forward in our ONEness. We have gotten some great feedback on the Sensuous Lovenotes™ so thank you for your input. Your input lets us know that we are on the right track. Our Prosperity Partner, Corey Pope, owner of www.City2CityTV.com is responsible for putting it together. He is the past owner of a Metro PCS franchise and is an up and coming Videographer who needs our support. He has great ideas on how to help your business grow and expand with use of technology.
He is also single and is looking for a wife. If there are Single Business Owners out there who has a positive mindset and believe that they can “complement” this free spirit who has a heart for children, email me. Sensuous Seminars, L.L.C. is responsible for the screening process. More details about “Kibwe is Looking for a Wife” will be announced in a subsequent blog.
Also, thank you to those who came to visit our booth at the Russell Bazaar. It was great connecting with some of you again. Your presence inspired us. Unfortunately, I must admit that the weekend was most draining. Those that visited our booth were either in an unhappy marriage, divorced or had made the decision to never marry again. I was surprised that “no one” spoke lovingly toward this union or each other. Hearing your stories and the pain in your voices was both grueling and heartbreaking.
Our prayers go out to those who are struggling to keep their love and marriage together. We do know how difficult it is to build love when you cannot seem to connect. However, I must admit that if men and women do not learn how to talk to and respect each other, our families and the love that we seek to create as a husband and wife is doomed.
Sometimes we forget why we got married in the first place and allow outside forces to come between our marriages and destroy our love for each other. We want to change each other rather than find ways to complement and enhance each other. As a husband and wife, it is impossible to move into your ONEness if you are still holding grudges and are attempting to make each other feel guilty for the pain for which "you" are both responsible. Pain is a two (2) way street. Everyone has feelings even if they do not show it.
To help you get back on track in Love and Marriage, Gary and I would like for you to join us on “Sex In The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™.” This show is designed to help you bring spice back into your marriage and show you ways on how to create a marriage that is Romantic, Fun, Passionate, Intimate and Spiritual.
This week topic of discussion will be on “Kissing” and the benefits of implementing this love creation strategy in your daily routine. It is part of our “Affection Series” and is based on the need for affection between husbands and wives is based on the book, “His Needs/Her Needs” by Dr. Williard F. Harley, Jr.
Kissing is a way to build romance and keep the fires burning in a marriage. It is a way that a husband and wife show affection and love for each other. It is a way to create fun, intimacy and break down the barrier for communication.
Although we may have the desire to kiss each other, the feeling to connect in this manner has a tendency to fade if we do not nurture and develop it, particularly if we are holding grudges or are disappointed in our love. For Gary and I, "Kissing" is a way to show appreciation for an act of love that was displayed or to apologize for pain that we may have caused each other. “Kiss and Make Up” is our mantra.
This week as you seek to create intimacy in your busy lives, take a moment before you leave the house in the morning to connect with your lips. Give each other your undivided attention before you start your day. How you decide to Kiss and for how long is up to you.
Do not make this a chore. If you do not feel like kissing, then don’t. Kissing should be entered into with a spirit of anticipation, generosity, love, forgiveness, playfulness and mutual consent. You do not want to enter into this connection with a spirit of obligation or with the intent to manipulate or punish. Both partners have to be willing to partake in this pleasure or else the environment for Love will not be created or have a chance to grow.
Below is a video presentation of Greta's Sensuous Talks™ on "The Importance of Kissing" and the need to apply this Love Creation Strategy in your marriage.
In order to get the benefits of creating intimacy with each other, it is our desire that you take the practice of Kissing seriously and apply it to your marriage on a daily basis. Love is a shared responsibility and kissing is one of the many building blocks for happiness and success between a husband and wife.
May God bless you as you seek to take your marriage to the next level, step outside of your comfort zone and co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!
All good things,
Sensuous Sexy Greta™"
Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved
Pleasure is my birthright. This is a powerful affirmation, especially against the backdrop of theologies that focus on pain and suffering. I have long been told and I am of the mindset that if a captor has a captive’s mind, they have absolute power over the captive.
To claim pleasure as your birthright is to confront the status quo and business as usual. It is to stop casting blame and to accept responsibility. It is to put in action those things you want to do and it is to put forth effort to make your dreams come true.
It is to live worry free, without shame, guilt and anger. It is to not be paralyzed and not stay stagnant unless you choose to do so. That brings me to Greta's question, "What is a wife responsibility in creating pleasure with her husband?"
I believe that it is the wife’s responsibility to share in creating a loving, welcoming fruitful environment for growth and pleasure. She owes it to herself, her husband and her children to be happy and receive pleasure. She owes it to herself, husband and children to be healthy and fulfilled. If Mama "ain't" happy nobody's happy. That’s true for the husband as well.
Thus, it is the wife’s responsibility to be real with her husband. She should share her passions and desires and invite her husband to participate and share in them. She owes it to herself to be open and honest with her husband. It was such a relief when I found out that wives actually like sex. It was helpful when we attended our first Tantric seminar to hear Pala tell other women that “Good girls enjoy sex and that you were not a “bad” girl because you enjoyed this connection with your husband.” It was further encouraging, revealing and uplifting to hear Pala tell other woman that they were responsible for their own sexual pleasure and happiness. A burden was lifted off of my loins. I no longer felt that I had to be super stud.
A wife needs to be free to tell her husband what she wants, likes and want to try. As she opens up herself, the husband must be receptive. He must be willing to listen, speak and act in love and respect. In marriage, the sexual connection is “one” of the most powerful communication vehicles between husband and wife. It is an emotional, mental, spiritual and physical connection that should be honored and cherished. When shared in love, it can be nurturing, relaxing and exciting. It is to be seen as a joy and a privilege and not as a dreaded task.
In looking at sex in a Tantric point of view, lovemaking is a time for husband and wife to share in a life giving and co-creating activity. As one prepares for special events in one’s week, so should a husband and wife prepare for love-making. One should prepare for lovemaking, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Uninterrupted time should be set aside. No phone calls, faxes, texts, e-mails or any other distraction should be allowed during these sacred moments. This time should be set aside for mental, emotional, spiritual and physical pleasure. It is set aside for physical exploration and mutual enjoyment. It is a shared privilege and a shared responsibility. It is one of the many benefits of being married. It is the wife’s responsibility to participate and facilitate this sacred meeting.
Marriage is a partnership and so it behooves husband and wife to know their own and their spouse's needs. The strongest needs are emotional as Greta has pointed them out. Understanding one’s own and their spouse’s needs will open the door for a husband and wife to give and receive bountiful pleasure. A mutual desire to meet the needs of one’s spouse will help them both to honor and live out their marriage vows.
Taking responsibility for one's own happiness relieves the other of the burden of trying to make someone happy. A husband cannot make a wife happy. She has to take responsibility for her own happiness. Conversely, a husband has to be responsible for his own happiness. Together they have the responsibility of articulating their needs to each other and devising a plan to mutually meet those needs.
A husband and wife should respect and care for each other and want the other part of them self to achieve their goals and reach their fullest potential. They should be willing to work alongside the other and do what's necessary to help the other without anger, a sense of loss or subservience.
True love and partnership will require sacrifice from time to time. However in pursuing pleasure, a husband and wife can live in gratitude, grateful for each other and grateful for their love. They can be self-actualized and in doing so create an environment of mutual acceptance and respect. These are key attributes to pleasure and happiness. Most of these activities occur outside of the bedroom, however when partners know that their spouse has their back, it makes pleasure in the bedroom, much easier to share. They will have experienced and received pleasure, thus it is easier for them to give it. A major component of “Making love” is having the mindset to love. It is reciprocal; it is given and received.
Early on in our relationship, Greta and I began a competition of Love. We sought to prove who could demonstrate love the best. Thus we would surprise each other with various expressions of Love from note cards to flowers to phone calls, e-mails, texts and all sorts of small gifts which demonstrated our love and proved that we did not take each other for granted. These expressions continue to bring excitement, anticipation and pleasure to us both. They demonstrate care and nurture and meet several emotional needs and are precursors to love making. I would argue that they are in themselves acts of love.
The key to giving and receiving pleasure between a husband and wife is open and honest communication. To create a successful marriage, active participation is required from both the husband and wife. They must pray together, love together, work together, play together and thus live life together. As most marriage vows proclaim…... “Two become One.” When a husband and wife become One, all of life ebbs and flow are shared and celebrated. This makes pleasure and love.
A husband and wife must tell each other what they want. Together they must proclaim and agree that truly, “Pleasure is their mutual birthright!”
It is a lot of fun to journey through life with the one you love. You can make it an adventure rather than a chore. Greta and I have claimed it. I pray that you and your spouse will too. Pleasure is your birthright!
