Playing like Lovers©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!

I hope this holiday season find you in good spirits as you are basking in the glow of love. Gary and I are continuing to enjoy being “empty nesters” as we prepare for the upcoming year and get ready for the new opportunities and possibilities that are coming our way. This is the time of the year when we do two things: Take our Play to a new level and enter into a state of self-reflection and examination. “Out with the old and in with the "New” becomes our mantra as we seek to cleanse ourselves emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually and financially while looking for areas to grow and discover. One thing that I know for sure is, "IT IS TIME FOR A CHANGE!!!!" As a husband and wife, we know from experience that “we” cannot continue to do the same old thing, act the same old way, speak the same old way and expect different results. We have to be willing to be transformed to walk in the Newness of our ONEness.

I want to take a moment and holla at my “Sensuous Sexy Lovers” who took the time out of their busy schedule to support us at our first Sensuous Event, “The Art of Sensuous Play©.” In addition, I want to thank “Lover’s Lane, Golden Reign, Well Suited Fashions, KnotAboutMe, Graham’s Printing,Inc., Twist Fitness Studio, Smooth Productions, Cost Plus Wine Shoppe, Vivio's Food and Spirits and O.H. Pye, III Funeral Home,” for sponsoring us, we could not have pulled off a successful event without your presence and support. May God bless you during this holiday season and beyond.

As for you “Sensuous Husband and Wives” who transformed yourselves into “Sensuous Sexy Lovers” that night, I only have one thing to say and one thing only…Y’ALL are so fast!!! For the record, I am talking about both genders; male and female; man and woman; husband and wife; lover and helpmate. You guys were acting like “Equal Opportunity Lovers,” feeding each other; singing to each other, staring in each other’s eyes as if you were seeing your lover for the very first time. Y’all must really love each other, that’s wonderful! In fact, it is beautiful. Gary and I laugh with joy every time we think about it. Do not forget to implement the “Love Creation Strategies” outlined in your “Love Development Plan©.” When used on a regular basis, you will see some wonderful results in your love connection and communication.

It takes a lot of courage to come to our events, you never know what to expect. We plan it that way. We want to make sure that when you leave our event that you have a different perspective and insight on God, sex, your love and marriage. Our intent is to give you something to laugh about and help you create a new way of bringing excitement into your life. Play makes that possible.

During the holiday season, when a husband and wife take their play to a new level, it helps them to remain focused on their love and not get caught up in living out “other” people’s dreams and desires. Gary and I find the "Art of Play" a necessary ingredient of love so that we do not take ourselves and others so serious. This time of the year can be a time of stress; thus humor is needed to ward off the feelings of inadequacy and sadness that we sometimes get during the holiday season. Play is used to eradicate some of those feelings and give each other the needed support of intimacy and laughter. It has a way of putting things in perspective and keeping the marriage light hearted. It brings a sense of harmony and balance to love and life.

On a much different note, I would like to address the issue of change and how important it is in the process of love creation and development, particularly during this time of the year. For me, change is probably the one area of growth and development that I find exhilarating and exciting. I love change. It is the one element of my life that I constantly embrace, for it is inevitable. Change gives me hope. It gives me the power and the opportunity to create something new, different and better for myself. Change has helped me to transform and not be afraid of the unknown. It has given me the power to step outside of my comfort zone and create the kind of happiness that I envisioned for myself and my lover.

In preparation for change this year and to greet the New Year with a renewed mind, heart, body and spirit, I have decided to implement some of the practices that I have found valuable in Edwene Gaines book, “The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity.” This book found its way into my space as I was looking for something that would help me release the residual baggage that I accumulated over the past year that has kept me from reaching my full potential as a wife and business woman. In addition, I want to make sure that I am being true and honest with myself as I live and work in my integrity and authenticity.

Although I am avid goal setter and have utilized a lot of the spiritual practices Edwene Gaines describe in my own self development, I found her perspective on setting goals quite insightful. In her book, she issues her readers a twenty-one (21) day challenge to improve themselves and so I want to share and invite you to participate in the same.

This process has the potential to help you live out and practice (2) biblical principles that are found in Psalms 19:14 and Philippians 4:8. It will help you create a spirit of prosperity and a compassionate heart. In addition, it will help you get rid of that negative self talk that we can find ourselves participating in and/or creating. I know that it has caused me to take a more active look at my thoughts, words, actions and deeds.

For me, the twenty-one (21) day challenge is a “Character Building” tool. It speaks to the kind of person you are and the heart that you are developing (i.e. complainer, gossiper, backbiter, liar, hater, mean-spirited, honest, integrity, trustworthy, loving, kind, generous, etc). It helps you to see or become aware of what you are creating in your life and marriage and make the necessary changes.

To help you get started, I suggest that you write down the following statements and follow them for the next twenty-one (21) days:

• I will not gossip or spread rumors about anyone for the next twenty-one (21) days.

• I will not complain about my situation and the unhappiness that dwells within it for the next twenty-one (21) days.

•I will not criticize or talk bad about the actions or behaviors of others for the next twenty-one (21) days.

•I will not allow any negative talk to fall from my mouth for the next twenty-one (21)days.

***For the next twenty-one (21) days, I will examine my thoughts, my behavior, my actions, my words and my deeds.***

To help me practice this process and get centered, I will be doing two things: Meditating on Psalms 19:14; Philippians 4:8 and using the following affirmation. “Greater is He that is in me, than he that is in the world." The biblical principles will be used to help me plant the seeds that I will need to change my mindset and initiate the process of self-examination. The affirmation will help me connect to my power source. You are going to need your power to complete this challenge.

Please be mindful that this is how I will be doing this practice. Feel free to incorporate the tools of your faith to help you complete this twenty-one (21) day challenge.

If you have not started journaling, I suggest that you start. Write down the kind of person that you want to be and the kind of life that you want to create. Be specific. Dare to take a peek at all areas of your life and be honest with yourself. Write it down. Ask yourself, “is my unhappiness causing me pain? Is it keeping me from reaching my full potential? Is there anything that I can do different that will cause me happiness? Track your progress. If you slip during the twenty-one (21) days, forgive yourself and start over. It takes practice to think positive. Hang in there, don't give up and have fun with this. Obtaining happiness is a process. It takes time.

Since I use the month of December to reflect and renew my spirit, I will not be blogging again until January. However, I want to make sure that I wish you and your lover a wonderful and prosperous holiday season and a New Year that is filled with all the love and happiness that you can stand.

Also, Edwene Gaines book can be found on our website in Greta’s Sensuous Boutique in our bookstore in our literary section entitled ‘Spiritual Practices.' If you have not browsed the bookstore, I suggest that you do.

Thanks again for your prayers and support, I do appreciate it. May God continue to give you the joy and the love that you deserve as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams.

In love and gratitude,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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