It's All About Love©

Hello Sensuous Women!!!!

I hope you had a wonderful week of love, growth and discovery. It has been AWESOME hearing from some of you. For those of you who have been printing out Greta’s Sensuous Talks™ and placing them in binders for future reference, thank you very much. I am very flattered, not to mention humbled. I am encouraged by your fortitude. I am certain that if you start implementing just a small portion of the love strategies that I have shared over the last three months, you will see a difference in your life and marriage. All it takes is a decision to create something better. The key is to never stop showing love to each other and to implement these practices on a daily basis. Making the time to spend with each other will help you become better lovers and helpmates. In creating a successful marriage, the husband and wife have to apply diligence when creating and developing love.

Also, if you have implemented the Affirmative Prayer in your daily lovemaking session, more Power to you. In this economy, it is definitely time for the husband and wife to be on ONE accord in their finances. We all know how difficult it is to have an honest and open discussion around our finances. Money is a subject that pushes all of our buttons. This discussion alone has the tendency to destroy the intimacy between a husband and wife. It brings up all kinds of emotions, thoughts and fears. Second to sex, money is the least discussed issue in marriage. More than likely, a husband and wife will have a different understanding and perspective about the significance of money and its use. As a result, the husband and wife can get caught up in the emotional aspect of this discussion and are rarely able to see or recognize God’s provision in supplying them with the money in the first place. This prayer will help you trust God with all of your finances and eliminate a heart and mind of lack and limitation. If you are willing, it will help you start a much needed discussion around money and its meaning for the both of you.

We are now entering a time when the husband and wife need to be thinking in more creative and innovative ways to provide for themselves and their family. It is now time to look at your Passions, Gifts, Talents, Interests, Intellectual and Financial Capital in your household that God has blessed you with over the years and apply it to creating wealth for you and your family. When applying this prayer, think of yourselves as successful and happy business owners who are contributing to the good of the world and living out your purpose as a husband and wife. Remember, a vision unfolds one prayer at a time, so be patient with each other as you attempt to move into your ONEness in your finances and the life and marriage of your dreams.

I am so happy to be sharing Greta’s Sensuous Talks™ with you. It is my desire that this forum will give us an opportunity to share without the drama. The only way to break down barriers is to communicate in a way that is non-threatening and intimidating. I am aware that the discussion of Spiritual Sex is different for some of you and you have to get over the shock of reading and seeing something new and unfamiliar. However, in talking and listening to men and women over the years, it is the spiritual sexual intimacy that is often missing in their love connection. This can leave the husband and wife with a tremendous void and a feeling of emptiness.

Since April, I have shared many ways for you to create a spiritual sexual connection with your lover and helpmate. They are some of the lovemaking rituals that I incorporate in my life and marriage on a daily basis. In creating love, you have to stretch your mind outside of the bedroom or the traditional ways of creating intimacy with each other. You have to become comfortable with having God in your marriage and discussing his/her presence in all areas of your life including the sexual connection that you share as a husband and wife. This discussion alone can be scary and intimidating. However, in moving into the next level of love it is necessary.

My desire for you this week is to slow down, have some fun and relaxation. Take it easy. Laugh a little and lighten up. Midweek, prepare a small Tantra feast (wine, cheese, fruit and wing dings,) put some music on, snuggle up close to your husband, hold him tight and just chill for twenty (20) minutes. Pay attention to his heartbeat. Send him thoughts of love and gratitude. Thank God for your abundance. Thank each other for being instruments of that abundance and the opportunity to share your love. Celebrate the goodness in your life and marriage. Talk about the good times. Should you find your passion rising and your breathing intensifying, that is your love energy at work, adhere to it, do not deny yourself. Give in to your lover and helpmate as you seek to indulge in a much needed, well deserved, God-honoring, Sensuous Connection.

Have a wonderful, delightful, Sensuous week. May God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

With love and gratitude,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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A Simple Exercise in Faith©

Hello Sensuous Women!!!

For the last two weeks, I have been working on my Vision Chart. I have used this spiritual growth and development tool for the last seven (7) years as I have prepared to take myself to a new level emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. I got introduced to this powerful practice through the Michigan Women’s Business Council. At the time, I was one of the fortunate students that got admitted into the CEED (Center for Empowerment and Economic Development) program in Ann Arbor, Michigan. They have an excellent Business Development program for women that are interested in Entrepreneurship, Wealth Creation and Self-Empowerment.

My instructor and now friend, Jan Davies had given us the assignment to put pictures and words on how we saw our company on a poster-board. At that time, she referred to this tool as a “Dream Chart.” We were to come up with a company name, put companies that we saw ourselves doing business with and our core values. We were also told to find words that demonstrated how we saw our company operating or in this case, “being.” The pictures and words were to represent the heart and the spirit of the CEO. It was an exercise on how you saw yourself and your company contributing to the good of the world.

Since then, I have implemented this powerful spiritual practice with my employees, my marriage, my family and for the first time, I am developing one for myself. This Vision Chart is more spiritual in nature and is by far, the most powerful. It is the most special because it has taken me forty-six (46) years to figure out what I want and who I AM. The pictures reflect how I see myself co-creating my life with God, Gary and interacting in my wholeness. It has an inner peace feel to it. I am definitely at a different level in my spiritual growth. I have reached a state of happiness and peace that I never thought was possible. It really reflects my decision to surrender and go with the flow of life. I am truly amazed at the pictures I am attracted to and how this chart is unfolding.

The Vision Chart is simply a “Faith Development” exercise that uses the practice of belief. When belief is practiced on a daily basis, it increases and expands one’s faith in themselves and God. Belief help to make one a contributor to good and is based on expected faith. It gives the practitioner the ability to know without a shadow of a doubt that “All things are possible.” It looks at everything from the perspective of opportunities and gratitude. It does not recognize obstacles because there are none. Life is looked at as a way to grow and expand. Belief is the dot that connects you to your faith and the power of God.

When I first started this spiritual practice, I can honestly say that I had the faith of a mustard seed. My faith and belief in myself was wrecked with doubts and fears about my ability to live up to the pictures that I had placed on my board. Although I saw myself running a successful staffing agency that was based on EXCELLENCE and delivering quality service, I was afraid of failure. In addition to that, I was shy, introverted and was not used to starting conversations with people. I did not know how I was going to build my company, nor did I know how I was going to get clients. All I knew at the time was that I had faith in God, a dream, degrees, certificates, along with the knowledge and skills that I had gained over the years in the world of work, and a burning desire to create a company built on relationships,inclusivity, mutual respect, acceptance and equity. I was compelled to create a company where everyone was welcomed and encouraged to reach their full potential, because of the racism, discrimination and lack of opportunity that I had encountered along the way.

At The Diverse Placement Group, L.L.C., we practiced being non-judgmental with a heart that was open and receptive to learning. We connected people to their passion and helped them live out their purpose. We helped people step into their personal power. We blessed people and answered prayers. We helped people feed themselves and their families. We opened doors to success. We created and nurtured entrepreneurs. We were a creator of jobs and a creator of wealth. We were solution oriented. What is ironic is that my dream has not changed; the only difference is that my focus has changed. My dream has expanded, because I have expanded.

After seven (7) years of using this one spiritual tool to cultivate and nourish the faith and belief in myself and God; I have lost all fear and doubt about the possibilities of life. I have come to realize that I am a visual person who is action oriented. I like to see where I am going. I like images and words. It makes it easier for me to stay focused and on track. I can keep my eye on the BIG PICTURE and not get deterred. However it is important to note that you cannot put pictures on a board and expect for them to manifest, you have to put in the necessary emotional, mental, physical and spiritual work to make the dream possible. In other words, you have to step out on faith and belief.

Making the dream a reality is where the rubber meets the road. It requires an attitude of endurance and positivity. In my experience, this is where a lot of people get off. They allow their faith and belief in God to be overtaken by negativity, procrastination and the fear of the unknown. They talk themselves out of moving forward because they are scared and have encountered a little “hiccup” or bump in the road. They fail to recognize and embrace the Power of God. They want to stay stuck because it is comfortable and familiar. They blame their situation and circumstances on other people. Within themselves, they have created a spirit of resistance, separatism and failure. They do not see themselves as being the co-creators of their lives and experiences.

I have learned over the years that faith and belief are learned behaviors. They are success oriented and require that the practitioner display action and discipline in the art of knowing, trust, surrender, acceptance, gratitude and patience. I have also learned that if I say that I trust God, then I must act upon it. I cannot have any fear or doubt about that trust and if I do have trust issues, then I have to work on resolving them. Personally, if I do not trust the Power of God and myself, then I do not have a leg to stand on. The life and marriage that I seek to create as a wife; lover and helpmate will have a foundation that is weak and shallow. It will crumble under my feet. My words and actions will lack the power, substance and integrity needed to create success that I desire.

I have also discovered that faith and belief are not something you do with half a heart; either you believe in the Power of God or you don’t. When the practitioner makes a decision to trust God, they have to stick with it. There is no room for wavering. Faith and belief are not something that you can fake. What you believe have a tendency to show up in your words and actions. They truly reflect the fruit of your spirit and the essence of who you are.

The Vision Chart will help you get to know yourself a little better and take a small step into faith development. When doing these, I stay away from gathering pictures of material things. The focus is more on the experience I want to create or achieve and the attributes that I would like to develop and grow in my life and marriage. I use them to build character. For example, in a chart that Gary and I completed three (3) years ago, we were able to come up with the following vision on how we see ourselves experiencing our life and marriage together. In essence, we seek to:

“BE PRESENT” with each other every moment while taking the time out to enjoy and explore life. We recognize that getting there is half the FUN. However, we will do it even if we have to “BIKE IT.” In the midst of work, entertaining family and friends, we will take the time out to create and experience Romance, Fun, Adventure, Passion and Intimacy with each other. We will embrace our childlike nature with a little splash and lots of smiles. We will create a Holistic Spiritual Retreat Center where husbands and wives can come together to renew, relax and reflect on their emotional and spiritual well-being creating for themselves a heart of peace and a spirit of good health. At the end of every day, we will spend time in our sacred space having luscious and delicious pillow talk.”

Be mindful that Gary and I meditate and continue to act on this vision daily. So far, everything has been accomplished except the Holistic Spiritual Retreat Center; however we know that it is on its way. That is the essence of faith and belief. Visions take time to unfold.

This week, my questions are short and to the point, “What is your vision for your marriage and yourself?” and “As a husband, wife, lover and helpmate how do you see yourself making “your” vision come true?” In other words, “How can you make your marriage bloom?”

Have a wonderful week and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

With love and gratitude,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™



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The Spiritual Power of Prayer and Meditation©

The Art of Self-Examination©

Hello Sensuous Women!!!!

I am sitting here writing you from my “Sensuous Throne” and looking out of my bedroom window as I meditate and reflect on the goodness of God. I am indeed grateful for the life that I have been given and the marriage that Gary and I have created. It has blossomed beautifully and is sprouting LOVE all over the place. My heart continues to burst with JOY.

In addition, I am grateful for those that are reading this blog. In the past, I forgot to mention the Sensuous Men who has expressed their enjoyment in receiving them and the impact that it has had on their marriage and the interaction with their wives. It is true that whatever I write works both ways and it is not intended for Sensuous Women only! For those Sensuous Men out there, please know that I heard you. I appreciate you bringing your insight and perspective to my attention. I want to encourage those that have used the information provided to improve their lovemaking skills to keep up the good work. Your wife deserves to be loved, respected, cherished, honored and treated like the “Goddess” that she is. After all, she is the “Wife of your Dreams” and it your responsibility to help make her feel special and loved by the “Husband of her Dreams.” The creation of love works both ways and it is reciprocal.

Thank you for your concerns, well-wishes and encouragement to stay connected to each other and play. For the last thirty (30) days, Gary and I have been involved in continuous play and fun with each other; that is why it has taken me so long to get back to you. I have been playing with my husband and celebrating the love that God has given us. It would not be wise for me to offer you suggestions on how to create love in your life and marriage if I am not doing it myself…that would make me a hypocrite. My marriage is a priority and I took time off to play and give myself and my husband some much needed undivided attention, fun and relaxation. I hope that you have been doing the same since I last wrote you.

On May 4^th, we celebrated our 23^rd wedding anniversary and Gary’s 48^th birthday. To celebrate another year of love, it has become our tradition to purposely find ways to implement more fun into our marriage. We like to honor God by celebrating our union as husband and wife. Adding fun to our life has helped us be more creative in bringing each other happiness. Every year our celebration is different and reflects the growth in our love, faith and trust in God and each other. Fun has helped us step outside of our comfort zone and become more comfortable with ourselves.

We also use this time of celebration to examine ourselves for any thoughts and feelings about life and each other that may be holding us back from moving forward in our ONEness as a husband and wife. Taking a conscious look at ourselves helps us to identify the negative emotions and feelings that we have about a situation, person, God and each other and deal with it in the spirit of love and forgiveness. Taking responsibility for our thoughts and emotions helps us clear the way for our good. As a general rule, we do not believe in nurturing and cultivating negativity; it serves no purpose other than to bring a person down. It lacks the characteristics of love, compassion, mutual respect and acceptance.

The act of self examination is what Gary and I refer to as “truth serum.” It is having the courage to tell the truth about how you really feel about yourself, God, each other, a situation and a person without feeling shamed, guilty, rejected, judged or ridiculed about the way you feel and choose to express yourself. It is making the attempt to understand your own emotions and feelings and making the determination as to whether it is an emotion or feeling that you want to hold on to. This is the first step in getting to know the true essence of you. It is a spiritual growth tool that when used on a daily basis connects you to your intuition and heart space.

Self-examination helps the husband and wife take an honest and truthful look at their heart and see what is residing in their spirit. What dwells in your mind, heart and spirit will tell you the truth about yourself as a person. This is a gauge that helps the husband and wife determine if they are operating out of dishonesty, distrust, love, hate, jealousy, envy etc. They are your emotional triggers or the things that push your buttons. They tell you where you are in your spiritual growth and development.

To be happy, a husband and wife have to be true to themselves first. They have to search their heart for those feelings that give them a negative outlook on their life and marriage and make a decision to change their behavior and response to it. Gary and I have found that it is difficult to move forward in ONEness if we are not being honest with ourselves and each other about our emotions and feelings. As a husband and wife, we want to move and grow together in integrity, honesty, trust, acceptance and gratitude. To get there, we have to work on ourselves first. As his wife, it is my responsibility to tell him the truth and it is his responsibility to tell me the truth. That requires knowing the truth about you first. “WHO AM I?” is a question that will help you get to the meat in your heart and learn the truth about yourself.

Self-examination is a “Love Creation” process that has helped Gary and me clear out the cobwebs in our life and marriage. After eight (8) years of intentionally practicing this art of “Emotional Growth and Development,” we have reached a point in our marriage where we can openly share our thoughts, emotions, insights, ideas and perspectives with each other with total acceptance and freedom. We can finally talk and hear each other and not get mad or what I like to refer to as the word of the day, ‘Offended.” This is a word that stops dialog and disrupts the flow of communication. It is used when the husband and wife pushes a button or an emotional trigger.

The act of being offended often happens when we have a different perspective, insight, belief or opinion about something and we have verbalized it. Offended basically means that, “whatever you said pushed a trigger in me and now I am hurt, insulted and angry about it and I no longer want to deal with you or it.” The wife stops speaking to the husband and/or vice versa. As a result, love is withdrawn and conflict occurs.

To start the process of self-examination, the husband and wife have to ask themselves the following questions: “Why am I offended?" “Why do I feel this way?" “Why have I withdrawn my love?” "Where did this feeling come from?" and “Do this feeling help or hurt me?" Love creation occurs when you seek to understand your own reaction to a situation, person, God and each other.

Self-examination is a personal act. It involves looking at your heart and coming face to face with your own anger, fears, doubts, disappointments, frustrations, resentments, regrets or any negative feeling that you have about yourself, God, husband/wife, a situation and a person and start the process of forgiveness. The ability to forgive will help you jumpstart the healing process and move you toward feeling better about yourself and life. It opens the heart to receive love. It is a “Love Creation” strategy that I refer to as a “POWER” move. The power comes from the husband and wife taking personal ownership for the damage and pain that they have placed in the marriage and in the life of each other. Forgiveness takes a look at your behavior and what you do to create the pain that you are NOW experiencing within and consciously make the decision to create something different and better for yourself and your marriage. It eliminates a broken heart and the suffering that you feel in your spirit and replaces it with a feeling of unconditional love and happiness. In marriage, the act of forgiveness is the peacemaker.

To help us gain the courage to speak our truth to each other and build love in our marriage, Gary and I use the Biblical principle “And the truth shall set you free” John 8:32 as an affirmation to open up to each other and be honest with ourselves. Trust is a reflection of this Biblical principle. “We trust that when we share openly and honestly with each other that it will be received and responded to in love. There is no harm in our intention; we have each other’s best interest at heart. The purpose of our marriage is to help each other reach their full potential while being true to ourselves, God and each other as we move into our ONEness as husband and wife.”

This week as you go about your daily activities, I want to encourage you to be “true and honest with yourself.” Go off by yourself and do some self-examination. Find out what makes you tick. Get a sense of what makes you happy. Take an honest look at what is residing in your heart and spirit and ask yourself the following questions: Do I like who I AM? Do I like what I see? Do I like what I feel? Am I happy with the life and marriage that I am creating? What am I afraid of? How do I keep myself from experiencing love? Do I love and accept myself? Do I believe in myself? Am I ready to forgive and move on? Am I at peace with myself? Am I at peace with God? Am I at peace with my husband/wife? Am I holding myself back? What is blocking me from my good? Am I ready to become better? These are questions that only you can answer.

Below is a prayer that we would like to share with you from Renaissance Unity. It is a church for Spiritual Growth. Gary and I have greatly benefited from this ministry. Greg Barrette is the Pastor and he is a wonderful, caring man who has a passion for spiritual growth and development. He opened his heart and arms to Gary and me during a time of transition. For his act of love and encouragement, we are eternally grateful. In addition, the people are warmhearted, friendly and have a sincere desire to learn and grow spiritually. It is a great place to expand. You can visit them at www.renaissanceunity.org and participate in their Sunday worship service via the internet at 9:00a.m. or 11:00a.m. Attending church via the internet has become a spiritual practice that Gary and I thoroughly enjoy together. It has become one of OUR favorite forms of worship.

This prayer is a part of their summer 2008 Unexpected Income Program. It can be used to help the husband and wife be on ONE accord in the financial matters of their marriage and expand their trust, faith and belief in themselves and God that is needed in this “Global Intellectual Economy.” We use this prayer to help remind us of our truth “God always Provide.” Saying this prayer helps us to take God at his/her word and recognize the true source of our power. You can also learn and read more about this Affirmative Prayer program on their website and register to participate. Please note: In the original prayer, the word ‘I” is used. However, in a movement toward ONEness in our marriage, Gary and I are learning to refer to everything as “WE, OUR and US.” This Affirmative Prayer is a reflection of us as a husband and wife:

WE dwell in the midst of Infinite Abundance. The Abundance of God is OUR Infinite Source. The River of Life never stops flowing. It flows through US into lavish expression. Good comes to US through unexpected avenues. God works in myriad ways to bless US. We now open OUR mind to receive OUR good. Nothing is too good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to happen. With God as OUR Source, nothing amazes US. WE give freely and fearlessly into life and life gives back to US with fabulous increase. Blessings come in expected and unexpected ways. God provides for US in wondrous ways. WE are grateful. And so it is.

Our intent is to commit this prayer to memory and make it a permanent part of our daily worship together. To help us accomplish this small feat, we have this prayer posted in our bathroom and the area where I do my hair. We are also making it a screensaver for our individual computers. It has become a great meditative practice as we seek to plant these words in our mind and heart.

Finally, please help Gary and I celebrate our ONEness and accept our PowerPoint Mini-Seminar as a gift. It is our desire that you download this Affirmative Prayer and make it a part of your daily meditative practice. It is our way of expressing gratitude for your encouragement, support and love for helping us get through this past year of Spiritual Growth and Development. It was a PHENOMENAL ride!!! We are the happiest we have ever been.

Have a wonderful week and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

With love and gratitude,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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