Honoring Your Good!...Part II©

Hello Sensuous Men and Women!!!

It’s great to be asked my thoughts, opinions, insight and experience. It is a blessing to be blessed and know that you are blessed. It is further a blessing to live blessed. For me and Greta that is living our mantra; We Are Love, Peace, Happy, Prosperous, Abundant and Joy. We are… the words that follow are so powerful, illuminating and grounding. We Are ONE!!!

These words that compose our mantra are more than mere words. They are the trees of life. They provide grounding, support and assurance. They are spring boards to our being and our present state of mind. The best person to remind you of who you are and what you are about is you, yourself, in our case it is Gary A. and Greta.

On a daily basis, we remind ourselves of who we are and what we are about. We use this power at our disposal. Some days we are better at it than others. In recognizing and claiming our power we recognize the breath of life that God has breathed into us. We recognize the part of each other that is made in God’s image. We recognize each other’s souls and we tap into eternity as we begin to live as the god and goddess that God made us.

As we do so, we truly experience peace, love and joy. We rise above the hustle and bustle of life that wants to claim so much of our attention, time and energy. We live within the presence of God and thus we treat each other with love, dignity and respect. In doing so, I am treated as a god and I treat Greta like a goddess. It is wonderful to be cherished honored and treated well by the one I love. It’s wonderful to be valued.

My opinion is not only sought out it is acknowledged and taken into consideration. I am made to feel that I matter. This feeling helps me to live and not merely exist. It is so drab and unfulfilling to merely exist, to go through the motions, doing repetitious things day in and day out, not feeling whole rather feeling like a machine.

Being a god let’s me know that I have the ability to create and to first create on a spiritual realm. This creation helps me on a physical, emotional and heart level. This creation helps me to treat Greta with the love and respect she deserves and desires. It helps me to be open and honest with her and share my goals, dreams, thoughts and experiences without fear. I do not fear that she will judge me or hold anything I say against me. I believe and know that what I have to say and who I am is respected and valued by Greta. I am accepted, just as I am. She acknowledges that I am becoming.

I am reminded of the reality that I live each time I gaze into Greta’s eyes. Truly the eyes are the gateway to the soul and I can peer into her soul and join her spiritually as she and I gaze into each other eyes and share breath. Yes, Yes, Yes, this is a beautiful occurrence, and it just gets better with time. As it does, I am more fulfilled. I am stronger for Greta and I are on the same page. We are journeying together and we are becoming ONE. We are making our special relationship more special. We are not taking each other’s love and support for granted. We cherish it. We nurture it, we grow it. Our biggest tool is communication. We talk, talk and talk as we listen, listen and listen. As we do so, we learn more about each other and we learn more about ourselves as a husband and wife and a working unit.

We know that we were put together for a purpose. We know our purpose is to heal marriages. We first had to start with our own. To do so we had to rid ourselves of lots and lots of baggage and misconceptions. We had to come to know what we believe and why. We had to be willing to discard teachings and learning that didn’t work for us (we had to clean out our spiritual and emotional closets).

In growing my soul, I have to come face to face with my own chauvinism and machismo training and tendencies. I had to develop my sensitive side. I grew up in a household with six (6) other males, five (5) older brothers and my father. There was a lot of testerone and competition. There was a lot of fighting for space and acknowledgement on my part. I had to remind my older siblings that I was more than someone who needed direction. In my relationship with Greta; I had to come to respect Greta differently. I had to come to know that she had thoughts, ideas and abilities equal and in some cases superior to my own. I had to come to understand that wife and helpmate means helpmate and teammate. I had to come to know that she is not the weaker sex!

I had to come to learn to share the responsibility of our marriage and understand that it was not all up to me and that I did not need to control everything and make everything work. I had to come to an expanded version of “being the man.” I had to come to understand the true meaning of partnership. Believe me this didn’t happen overnight.

In coming into this understanding, my concept of god/goddess expanded. For me, it makes sense that we are souls having a human experience. It makes sense that souls like energy is neither created nor destroyed. It makes sense that God resides within us and that we need to develop our spirit and ourselves to be in deeper relationship with God. There is so much contained within my consciousness that it is bourgeoning to get out. In some ways this understanding gave me permission to focus on me and not so much others and definitely not Greta.

I need to know me better so that I can give Greta me. I need to know my strengths and weaknesses, my pains, pleasures, desires and wants, my yearning and those things that engage and compel me, so that I can share them with my wife and soul mate. To do so, makes me strong and not weak. It allows me to live freely in MY power. It allows me to be loving and encouraging. It allows me to give Greta the space she needs to grow and blossom. I need not control her. I need only to love and empower her. In doing so, I do it unto myself.

What is good for her is good for me and so as I develop so does she. As you go through the rest of your week, I offer the following affirmations to help you in developing yourself for further intimacy with your lover and helpmate.

In loving (your lovers’ name), I love me.
In respecting (your lovers’ name), I respect me.
In freeing (your lovers’ name), I free me.
In empowering (your lovers’ name), I empower me.

Peace be unto you…as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

-Gary A.

"Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved"

Honoring Your Good!©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!

I hope that you had a week of prosperity and bliss with your lover and helpmate. Do not forget to tell each other how much you love each other. This should be a daily practice and mentioned several times throughout the day. I know that I appreciate hearing these words from Gary throughout the day. It helps to fuel my soul. For us, saying “I love you” is a time when we stop and give each other our undivided attention…as we look deeply into each other eyes. This act of connection can last a mere sixty (60) seconds and is limitless which means, that you can practice it as much as you want, any time of the day. Personally, I do not think you can utter the words, “I love you” to the one that you are with, enough. To make this connection even better, end with a long embrace. In other words, hug each other. If you are doing this already, I applaud you. If not, I challenge you to implement this practice in your daily interaction for the next ten (10) days. Make it a game. I am sure you will leave each other feeling good and not to mention "LOVED UP!!!"

As usual, I would like to express gratitude to those who took the time out of their busy schedules and listened to the telecast interview with Allana Pratt and myself. I have gotten back some interesting and enlightening feedback. In our conversations and email correspondence, I have heard words like "Touching, Fantastic, Powerful, or statements like ...Your story moved me; I have felt and feel the same way; I have never thought to pray before or during lovemaking and one that I found to be most interesting, You sound professional." Not sure what that means…however, I will embrace it.

If you have not heard the telecast interview, it is still available for you to listen at http://tinyurl.com/GretaRecommends. If you feel compelled, register for the LIVE Webcast Telesummit; I am sure that you will be empowered by the wisdom and stories of these powerful accomplished women.

Also, I want to make sure that I give a shout out to Gail Sinclair, a wonderful and delightful goddess that I met two (2) years ago at the MEGA Book Marketing University in Los Angeles for making this opportunity possible. You know that I love you girl and I cannot wait to see you again. I look forward to working with you as we open the minds and hearts of women/men on the emotional, spiritual and sexual transformation and healing powers of Sacred Pole Dancing. All I can say is, "YOU ROCK!!!!" I am so grateful that God placed you in my space.

So that you understand why I refer to my "Sensuous Friend" as a "goddess," it is very simple. In Tantra, the word “god” and “goddess” refer to treating yourself and others with respect and honor while acknowledging their good. It is a woman who is tune with her feminine/sexual power or her female self. As I see it, a "goddess" is a woman who is at peace emotionally, mentally, spiritually and sexually and is comfortable with herself physically. There is no shame about her body or how she chooses to express herself as a woman, wife, lover and helpmate.

In other words, she is in ALIGNMENT or in harmony with herself emotionally, mentally, spiritually and sexually. She is ONE with herself and God and has rid herself of all jealousy, envy, hatred, distrust, division and separation and embraces Good for herself and others. She can see beyond the petty differences and do not concern herself with the color of a person’s skin, sexual orientation, nationality, religion, professional status, educational level, age, gender, height, weight, body type, past and current behavior, past and current decisions, or anything else that would allow her to exhibit prejudice or find fault with another person. In so doing, she can love, honor and respect other women and men regardless of their path, life experiences or personal beliefs. In the eyes and heart of a "goddess," every person has value or worth.

I believe that every woman is a "goddess" whether or not she embraces that is up to her. We all have the capacity to be a provider, protector, lover, healer, nurturing mother, loving and nurturing wife, seducer, hunter, wild, adventurous, romantic, passionate and depending on the situation, strong and forceful. It is this feminine power that I recognize, embrace and honor in myself and other women.

In addition, I believe that every male is a "god" and that he should be honored and respected for his masculine/sexual power and how he chooses to express himself as a man. For me, a "god" embodies the same characteristics of a goddess; he is a provider, protector, lover healer, hunter, strong, forceful, nurturing father, loving and nurturing husband, romantic, passionate, seducer and a healer. He is emotionally, mentally, spiritually and sexually in tune with himself and is not afraid to surrender to his goodness. He is in ALIGNMENT or at peace and ONE with himself and God and has rid himself of all jealousy, envy, hatred, distrust, division and separation and embraces the Good for himself and others. In essence, a "god" is simply the mirror reflection of his "goddess.” They complement each other in love and are equal partners.

In the spiritual practice of Tantra, these are the characteristics or "god like" qualities in each other that we worship as a husband and wife. These are things that we admire and appreciate in each other. These are the attributes or strengths that we uplift and embrace. Please note: worship does not mean that a wife follows her husband blindly and vice versa or that one in the marriage has control or power over the other. It simply means that the husband and wife serve each other equally and enthusiastically from the highest state of their personal power and with mutual respect. For Gary and I, worship simply means that we honor and accept the good in each other while appreciating and respecting the way we were created as a male and female. No gender is better than the other. The key in our marriage is to help each other reach their fullest potential. It is this realization that makes the husband and wife a powerful force and it is from this space that they become ONE.

This week, look for the god/goddess (good) in yourself and each other. If you cannot see the good in yourself, you will not be able to see the good in your husband or wife and not to mention other people. Make a list of all the things you like (love) about yourself. Attempt to look beyond your perceived flaws. Give yourself some compassion.

This love creation exercise will lead you to a path of self-discovery and help you define who you are and the kind of person that you want to cultivate or manifest in your marriage and life. Start your list with the powerful affirmative statement of "I AM." For example:

I AM woman that has a prosperous mindset and an entrepreneurial spirit.
I AM a woman that is self-assured and believes in the impossible.
I AM a woman who has a heart and respect for herself, God and her husband.
I AM a woman with a sense of humor; the ability to laugh is important to me.
I AM a woman with a sense of adventure; I am not afraid to explore and expand.
I AM a woman who has an expansive intellect with a spirit of continuous learning.
I AM a woman who is Sensuous, Sexy, Powerful, Complete and whole!

These are some of the attributes or qualities that I see in myself and the ones that I nurture and develop on a continuous basis. I am certain that your "I AM" will be different for you. Embrace your uniqueness. Have fun with this exercise and do not rush through it. Give it some thought. Go inward and meditate on what you want to create, how you want to express yourself, who you wish to become and write it down. Let your heart speak to you. Your "I AM" is a roadmap to your success.

Finally, Gary A. as I affectionately call him will be sharing his perspective and insights with you on Wednesdays. I am anxious to read and discover how he has incorporated the concept of "god and goddess" into his life, our marriage and how this practice of seeing me as his "goddess" and me worshipping and honoring him as my "god" has made him a better husband, lover, helpmate and friend.

Take care and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

"Copyright 2008 Sensuous Sexy Greta™. All Rights reserved"