Kissing In The Morning©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!

Thank you so much for your encouragement and feedback on last week Greta’s Sensuous Talk™ We continue to solicit your prayers and support as Gary and I move forward in our quest to help marriages become better. It is our desire to deliver information that is authentic to us and reflects “our” spirit as a husband and wife. Therefore, “Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™" seeks to be real, engaging, funny and educational.

As reflected in my talk, Kissing is a regular part of our marriage and the way that we express love for each other. It is an agreement that we both had to reach in order for this love creation strategy to be effective. We made a pact that this is how we would start our day. It was an element of love and affection that was missing between us. Although we kissed passionately during dating, the intensity and frequency decreased as we gave other areas of our lives more attention and found ourselves "pecking" as we sent each other out into the world.

Kissing is a practice that has to be nurtured and cultivated. It has to be done with intention and purpose. It has to add meaning to your lives and be a connection that you both cherish. To kiss just because you think it is something that you are supposed to do as a husband and wife will not feel good. It will feel obligatory and the connection that you desire will not be made.

Kissing is not a prelude to sex and should not be done with groping. I know from my experience that when groping was involved, my female brain immediately associated this touch with sex and I intuitively withdrew from this form of affection. I found it difficult to give myself permission to enjoy this connection with Gary without this thought popping into my head.

In retrospect, this kind of “stinking thinking” created a barrier to me experiencing intimacy and love. As a wife, I had to learn that this was one of the ways Gary expressed his love for me and that to receive the benefits of kissing, I had to be receptive.

To be effective in developing love and creating an environment where your lover can feel safe, it is essential that “Kissing” and how you want to kiss be discussed. By having this discussion, you will learn what feels good to each other and find ways to develop closeness.

Talking about how you want to be touched and how you want this connection to look is very important. It helps you to set boundaries and create respect for each other’s body temple. It also gives you the opportunity to look for ways in which you will both feel comfortable expressing your affection and co-creating love.

Finally, it is our belief that kissing is a spiritual connection and one that affects the heart, mind, body and soul. The exchange of breath and life with your lover is sacred and therefore the lips are to use for blessing.

Therefore, it is important that when you kiss that you do not enter into this connection with anger, resentment, jealousy, envy, fear, etc. Kissing in this manner will leave a nasty taste in your mouth and a spirit of discourse and discontent. It is difficult to be affectionate and build intimacy with each other if your love is contaminated by this kind of toxic energy.

This week as you continue to seek to implement Kissing in your daily lovemaking ritual…pay attention to your thoughts on kissing. Notice the feelings that you have when you think of this connection with each other and write them down. Make a point to set aside time with your lover to discuss how kissing affects you. Be gentle with each other as you share ways to improve.

Also, be mindful that not everyone is comfortable with this kind of affection, so if your lover is having difficulty connecting in this manner, be patient with them. Kissing is a learned behavior and should be fun…the more you do it, the more you will like it.

Take care of yourselves and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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