The Power of Hugging©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!!

As I sit here and attempt to write this blog on hugging, I must admit that this has been one of the most difficult. As I examine this need for affection and the importance that it has to the love that is shared between a husband and wife, I feel a sense of pain and joy. Pain… because I remember how the lack of affection made me feel alienated from him and unloved. Joy….because I now experience the benefits of this affection from Gary and the blessings this has brought to our love and marriage. It has definitely been “fun” in progress!

The “Affection Series” that we have been presenting to you in Word and Deed through Sex in the Morning Show with Gary A. and Greta™ are heartfelt love creation strategies that we hope you will implement in your marriage with each other. For affection to work effectively in marriage, there has to be an agreed upon way to express this intention. Communicating and sharing how you want to be loved and feel loved, build and create intimacy in this area. Just like everything in marriage, the time for affection to grow and develop has to be given priority.

Affection is the ability to show your lover how much you love, respect, appreciate and desire them through expressions such as of kissing, eye gazing, hugging and hand holding, conversation, dinner, notes etc. and is usually non-sexual. It is the foreplay that the husband and wife engaged in while they were dating and were goo-goo eyes over each other.

In most cases, a wife need to feel as if she is ONE with her husband before she can have sex with him and the expression of affection and undivided attention from her husband help to make this physical and spiritual connection meaningful. According to Dr. Willard Harvey, author of HIS NEEDS/HER NEEDS, affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval for most women.

When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages:
I’ll take care of you and protect you. You are important to me and I don’t want anything to happen to you.
I’m concerned about the problems you face and I am with you.
I think you’ve done a good job and I’m so proud of you.

When a husband hugs his wife, he is communicating all of these things. It lets her know that she is special to him and that he cares for her deeply. It helps to create an environment of Love, Trust, Kindness and Compassion between them.

In my own marriage, Gary and I found that hugs help to break down the barriers that we had between us and create a feeling of closeness. Hugs has gotten us through some challenging situations. It is a display of affection that we do continuously throughout the day and share in equally. I have found that if I wanted to feel the intimacy of this connection then I made sure that I got the intimacy…in other words, I did not wait for Gary to hug me….I hugged him!!! Taking the lead has helped me to take control of the love that I wanted and desired.

This week as you go about the daily duties of being a husband and wife, I want to encourage you to HUG each other before you leave the house in the morning. Send each other out into the world feeling loved, rejuvenated, comforted and protected.

In the meantime check out our Affection Series on “Hugging” on www.Youtube.com/SensuousSeminars1 and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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