Make Love with Your Eyes©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!!

Well we are off to a good start….Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™ is hot!!!!

Thank you for your comments, we definitely appreciate them. Not only are people saying that Gary should put a shirt on or Greta should comb her hair…they've also expressed how much they like the concept and the information that we are attempting to convey. What is most important is that lovers are talking about kissing and have started to connect in this way again.

Also if we are going to teach “Authenticity,” we must practice “Authenticity” and no....we are not perfect. We are working on being “Authentic” just like the rest of you who have made the decision to be real and true to yourself. Anyway, now that you know how we look in the morning and like to start our day, we can get down to some serious business. The 2nd episode is on Eye Gazing.

In marriage, the eyes are probably the most neglected part of the love connection. Although Gary and I looked into each others eyes for hours while we were dating, this connection faded as we added the responsibility of kids, work, school and our extracurricular activities. We were busy people who had time for everyone and everything else but each other.

Looking into each other’s eyes on a daily basis helps to keep the attraction going between a husband and wife. It keeps the sparks flying and helps you get on ONE accord. I must admit that this exercise can be intimidating if you have not looked in each other’s eyes for in a long time.

When we started implementing Eye Gazing as part of our daily lovemaking routine ten(10) years ago, I remember feeling vulnerable, uncomfortable, anxious, embarrassed, giggly and thinking that this exercise was stupid…however, I also felt a sense of connection with Gary that I had not felt in years and it is that feeling that I began to nurture and cultivate. I love looking into Gary’s eyes. To me, they are beautiful.

Before you can become ONE, you have to start looking at each other and “seeing” each other, otherwise you will come to feel unappreciated and taken for granted. It is easy to feel unloved and undesired by each other when you are not connecting. Eye Gazing helps you to “see” each other and break down those emotional barriers that keep you apart. It is primarily used for husbands and wives who “want” to take their marriage to the next level of intimacy.

Please take a look at the video on Eye Gazing. Use the information to apply this Love Creation Strategy in your marriage. Take the time to “see” and adore each other for 2-3 minutes. Silence is encouraged. Resist the urge to turn your eyes away. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable to and with each other.

If done consistently, Eye Gazing will help you get in tune and co-create love in each other’s heart, mind, body and spirit. Remember love has to be created, it does not just happen. It is a step by step process. No marriage can sustain love without any effort and practice.

Be blessed this week as you seek to co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!!!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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Kissing In The Morning©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!

Thank you so much for your encouragement and feedback on last week Greta’s Sensuous Talk™ We continue to solicit your prayers and support as Gary and I move forward in our quest to help marriages become better. It is our desire to deliver information that is authentic to us and reflects “our” spirit as a husband and wife. Therefore, “Sex in The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™" seeks to be real, engaging, funny and educational.

As reflected in my talk, Kissing is a regular part of our marriage and the way that we express love for each other. It is an agreement that we both had to reach in order for this love creation strategy to be effective. We made a pact that this is how we would start our day. It was an element of love and affection that was missing between us. Although we kissed passionately during dating, the intensity and frequency decreased as we gave other areas of our lives more attention and found ourselves "pecking" as we sent each other out into the world.

Kissing is a practice that has to be nurtured and cultivated. It has to be done with intention and purpose. It has to add meaning to your lives and be a connection that you both cherish. To kiss just because you think it is something that you are supposed to do as a husband and wife will not feel good. It will feel obligatory and the connection that you desire will not be made.

Kissing is not a prelude to sex and should not be done with groping. I know from my experience that when groping was involved, my female brain immediately associated this touch with sex and I intuitively withdrew from this form of affection. I found it difficult to give myself permission to enjoy this connection with Gary without this thought popping into my head.

In retrospect, this kind of “stinking thinking” created a barrier to me experiencing intimacy and love. As a wife, I had to learn that this was one of the ways Gary expressed his love for me and that to receive the benefits of kissing, I had to be receptive.

To be effective in developing love and creating an environment where your lover can feel safe, it is essential that “Kissing” and how you want to kiss be discussed. By having this discussion, you will learn what feels good to each other and find ways to develop closeness.

Talking about how you want to be touched and how you want this connection to look is very important. It helps you to set boundaries and create respect for each other’s body temple. It also gives you the opportunity to look for ways in which you will both feel comfortable expressing your affection and co-creating love.

Finally, it is our belief that kissing is a spiritual connection and one that affects the heart, mind, body and soul. The exchange of breath and life with your lover is sacred and therefore the lips are to use for blessing.

Therefore, it is important that when you kiss that you do not enter into this connection with anger, resentment, jealousy, envy, fear, etc. Kissing in this manner will leave a nasty taste in your mouth and a spirit of discourse and discontent. It is difficult to be affectionate and build intimacy with each other if your love is contaminated by this kind of toxic energy.

This week as you continue to seek to implement Kissing in your daily lovemaking ritual…pay attention to your thoughts on kissing. Notice the feelings that you have when you think of this connection with each other and write them down. Make a point to set aside time with your lover to discuss how kissing affects you. Be gentle with each other as you share ways to improve.

Also, be mindful that not everyone is comfortable with this kind of affection, so if your lover is having difficulty connecting in this manner, be patient with them. Kissing is a learned behavior and should be fun…the more you do it, the more you will like it.

Take care of yourselves and may God continue to bless you as you co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™

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The Importance of Kissing©

Hello Sensuous Women and Men!!!!

As usual, I pray that this blog finds you at peace with yourself and your loved ones. It has been awhile since I last “took” the time to sit down and write. However, sometimes you have to take time out for yourself and attempt to bring your life back into focus and decide for yourself what is important so that you can take the next step forward.

Since my last writing, Gary and I have celebrated several milestones, my 48th birthday, his 50th birthday and our 25th Wedding Anniversary. To be honest, it feels strange to see my life moving so fast. Yet, I will continue to embrace all that life bring and live it to the fullest as I seek to live in the moment of NOW.

I feel excited and rejuvenated as Gary and I continue to move forward in our ONEness. We have gotten some great feedback on the Sensuous Lovenotes™ so thank you for your input. Your input lets us know that we are on the right track. Our Prosperity Partner, Corey Pope, owner of www.City2CityTV.com is responsible for putting it together. He is the past owner of a Metro PCS franchise and is an up and coming Videographer who needs our support. He has great ideas on how to help your business grow and expand with use of technology.

He is also single and is looking for a wife. If there are Single Business Owners out there who has a positive mindset and believe that they can “complement” this free spirit who has a heart for children, email me. Sensuous Seminars, L.L.C. is responsible for the screening process. More details about “Kibwe is Looking for a Wife” will be announced in a subsequent blog.

Also, thank you to those who came to visit our booth at the Russell Bazaar. It was great connecting with some of you again. Your presence inspired us. Unfortunately, I must admit that the weekend was most draining. Those that visited our booth were either in an unhappy marriage, divorced or had made the decision to never marry again. I was surprised that “no one” spoke lovingly toward this union or each other. Hearing your stories and the pain in your voices was both grueling and heartbreaking.

Our prayers go out to those who are struggling to keep their love and marriage together. We do know how difficult it is to build love when you cannot seem to connect. However, I must admit that if men and women do not learn how to talk to and respect each other, our families and the love that we seek to create as a husband and wife is doomed.

Sometimes we forget why we got married in the first place and allow outside forces to come between our marriages and destroy our love for each other. We want to change each other rather than find ways to complement and enhance each other. As a husband and wife, it is impossible to move into your ONEness if you are still holding grudges and are attempting to make each other feel guilty for the pain for which "you" are both responsible. Pain is a two (2) way street. Everyone has feelings even if they do not show it.

To help you get back on track in Love and Marriage, Gary and I would like for you to join us on “Sex In The Morning Show with Gary A. & Greta™.” This show is designed to help you bring spice back into your marriage and show you ways on how to create a marriage that is Romantic, Fun, Passionate, Intimate and Spiritual.

This week topic of discussion will be on “Kissing” and the benefits of implementing this love creation strategy in your daily routine. It is part of our “Affection Series” and is based on the need for affection between husbands and wives is based on the book, “His Needs/Her Needs” by Dr. Williard F. Harley, Jr.

Kissing is a way to build romance and keep the fires burning in a marriage. It is a way that a husband and wife show affection and love for each other. It is a way to create fun, intimacy and break down the barrier for communication.

Although we may have the desire to kiss each other, the feeling to connect in this manner has a tendency to fade if we do not nurture and develop it, particularly if we are holding grudges or are disappointed in our love. For Gary and I, "Kissing" is a way to show appreciation for an act of love that was displayed or to apologize for pain that we may have caused each other. “Kiss and Make Up” is our mantra.

This week as you seek to create intimacy in your busy lives, take a moment before you leave the house in the morning to connect with your lips. Give each other your undivided attention before you start your day. How you decide to Kiss and for how long is up to you.

Do not make this a chore. If you do not feel like kissing, then don’t. Kissing should be entered into with a spirit of anticipation, generosity, love, forgiveness, playfulness and mutual consent. You do not want to enter into this connection with a spirit of obligation or with the intent to manipulate or punish. Both partners have to be willing to partake in this pleasure or else the environment for Love will not be created or have a chance to grow.

Below is a video presentation of Greta's Sensuous Talks™ on "The Importance of Kissing" and the need to apply this Love Creation Strategy in your marriage.

In order to get the benefits of creating intimacy with each other, it is our desire that you take the practice of Kissing seriously and apply it to your marriage on a daily basis. Love is a shared responsibility and kissing is one of the many building blocks for happiness and success between a husband and wife.

May God bless you as you seek to take your marriage to the next level, step outside of your comfort zone and co-create the marriage and life of your dreams!

All good things,

Sensuous Sexy Greta™"

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